Roger Tuckerman Emails

Banning Best Friends at School

The father of a nine-year-old bully wants an elementary school to ban best friends.

banning best friends

Subject: Registering my Son for Grade Four

Dear Principal,

I would like to enroll my son Bart at Darwin Elementary for grade four, beginning September 2018. However, I am only willing to enroll him if you implement a no-best-friend policy for his class. The school my son currently attends allows children to have a best friend, and this has made Bart feel excluded. He is the only child in the class without any friends, and has been unfairly stigmatized as a bully.

Bart is not a bully, but he is a big boy. He’s nine-years-old and weighs 120 pounds. He’s heavier than average because I let him eat whatever he wants and as much as he wants, two cultural practices passed down to me from my Italian mother, who learned the same from her mother, who learned the same from her mother.

Unfortunately, my son has been rejected by his classmates because of his weight. If you contact his school, they will tell you he is unpopular because he often sits on a boy at lunch hour. However, Bart only does this because he wants the boy he sits on to be his best friend. Sadly, all the boys have rejected him.

All the girls in his class have rejected him too. If you contact his school, they will tell you it is because he chases the girls at lunch hour, and when he catches one, he asks her to be his girlfriend. Unfortunately, they all said no, laughed at him, and said he was too fat. Naturally, this was very damaging to his self-esteem, so he pulled his pants down and mooned them.

My son is an unpopular boy, but I hope Darwin Elementary can be a place where he can find love and acceptance, and not be labelled a bully. I believe that a public school should be founded on progressive values, and practice inclusion.

As a case in point, Prince William and Kate Middleton enrolled their son George at Thomas’s Battersea, a school which has a no-best-friend policy. Thomas’s Battersea is a shining light, a moral example to the entire world. If one child cannot have a best friend, then no child should be allowed to have one. All children should be equal, and not have special privileges!

Thank you for considering my request for a no-best-friend policy, and I look forward to hearing from you at your earliest convenience.

Yours sincerely,

Roger Tuckerman


  1. While the problem of bullying is a serious one, this was a perfect riff on today’s permissive society. I loved the line “…he is unpopular because he often sits on a boy at lunch hour.” Children learn what it is we teach — and fail to teach — them.

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  2. I found this letter is really interesting. What I see in this case is parenting, school and personal factors causing to this “school bullying” issue. In some sense, I agree that a “best friend policy” may lead to bullying in class, especially for kids that are introverted or not that active. They may easily be forgotten or even ignored, and this may increase the possibility for them to be bullied. However, I found that parent of this kid should do more education for their kids but only claiming others. It is hard to request others and the school to accommodate and cater their kids while the kid is not doing anything to help himself a better life. It can be said parents bear the responsibility.

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